So it’s sunrise time through my window here. Out all night with my friends trying to keep myself busy, keep my commitment to giving her that space she needed by not calling, and as an added bonus celebrating a few birthdays.
Looking at the sunrise though, I’m just remind about how much I love holding her. When we get some more time I’m going to take her down to the beach, wake her up early in the morning with some fresh coffee and a plate of toasted bagels, sit her on the swinging porch, and hold her as the sun comes up. If she falls back asleep, that would be fine too. I think we’re both suckers for that sort of thing.
So I want to compile some links to the various relationship information I’d been reading and finding helpful. Maybe others will find it helpful. Maybe I’ll at least be able to find them again in one spot. Keep in mind many of these are for married couples and while that doesn’t apply to my situation, I still found them at least interesting.
So the first one is from the Simple Marriage Project possibly summed up in the brilliant line “As husbands, it is my contention that we should be fighting for the heart of our wife.”
The articles are often designed for both partners as opposed to some of the more husband oriented things I have been reading. A good portion are simple conversation techniques though it also includes some fairly exotic ideas to highlight the spice, connection, and love in a marriage.
A few choice articles:
- The Proper Use of the Tongue – This article contains the above quote and ideas for how to talk to and about your wife in a way that elevates her, your opinion of her, and blocks you connecting with other women.
- The Art of Marital Conversation – This one focuses on how to speak with your wife in a way that really builds the connection between you. I can’t remember where I read it but I read recently that sometimes it isn’t communication alone but concern and caring that helps save a relationship. This is about building both through observing, feeling, needing, and requesting. At the end it comes down to simple points of advice that clearly and elegantly described: focusing on your intention and seeking a compassionate connection with your other half.
- How to Have an Affair… With Your Spouse – This one is interesting. It is an idea to create the thrill of the chase within the context of the marriage by creating a secret affair with your spouse and gradually incorporating that energy into the marriage itself.
There will be a real post later today. My final thought is from xkcd and is something I considered perhaps the most romantic thing in the world (click the picture for the full size version):
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